In the spirit of Montessori education, which emphasizes fostering independence, empathy, and social responsibility, we might rethink the traditional question we ask children at Christmas. Instead of focusing on “What do you want for Christmas?”—a question that naturally centers on receiving—we can shift the perspective to encourage giving and thoughtfulness. Asking, “What can you do for Mommy (or Daddy, a sibling, or a friend) for Christmas?” inspires children to think about how they can contribute to others’ happiness.
This approach aligns with Montessori values, nurturing kindness and a sense of community while helping children move beyond a self-centered “gimme gimme” mindset. It gently instills the joy of giving and encourages them to see Christmas as an opportunity to share and create for others rather than solely focusing on what they receive. By cultivating this mindset, we empower children to become compassionate, giving individuals who find fulfillment in contributing to their family and community.
Kaye Boehning, M.Ed